How to stop Arguing

Help for the family

Are you in a relationship, marriage where you think things are not working out the way you wished? Have you tried every way and every technique to let it work? If you are in this kind of situation then this article I am about to post is for you.

Beloved, God wants us to be happy that is why he gave us His word “The Bible.” Have you tried every way out but have not yet tried to use the bible? The bible is actually the best gift Jehovah God could give to His people.

Help me bring out why we argue in a relationship, marriage or in our homes...

Factors of arguing

1. Differences: Do you think you are that compatible with your spouse that there shouldn’t be no argument? Many of us think that way, it is not wrong to think like that though but its never possible to not argue at all. The important thing is how to resolve conflict that arises. The differences can raise variety or tension. For many couples, the result is tension.

2. Deeper concerns: Do you always accuse your partner of lateness or repeated behavior you might not like? Have you really found out why you nag at it ? Most at times it is the situation of the spouse not being treated considerately.
   
   
3. Role models: How did your parents talked to each other? Did you learn how to show respect to people? If not then that could be the cause of the misunderstanding.
   
   
4. Misunderstandings: Maybe you did not learn how to show respect so you talk to your partner anyhow. You speak inappropriate words to him without even knowing your words are hurting.

*Frequent arguing can cause harm to your health and can cause divorce or breakup. It can also make you unhappy so join me to work out some ways we can make this troubling relationship work again and restore your happiness.

What can you do?

• Both you and your spouse, partner should write down the cause of your resent argument.

eg. You can write, “you came home late again and did not call to inform me you were coming late" and your partner can write “ i came home late and did not call to inform her I am coming late.”

• Please discuss with your spouse quietly if this was really necessary for an argument. In most cases we should learn how to agree to disagree and cover up a lot of things with love.

Please read Proverbs 17:9. The bible says “he that cover a transgression seekth love but he that repeat matter separate friends”. So beloved, save your relationship by letting love overrule the transgression that might arise.

• Write how you both felt during the argument. You write, “I felt that you prefer the company of your friends over my company and let your partner do so too.
• Exchange papers and read through how each other felt. Proverbs 29:11. The bible says „The wise person does not respond in the heat of argument but waits for a calm moment to speak”.
• Discuss, see to it that you apologize or forgive your partner . Please read Colossians 3:13, 14. The bible is telling us to forgive each other and put out charity which is the bond of perfectness.

Do not forget to seal it with a prayer.

Tip> Share this with a friend, tell a friend or discuss this with a friend or with your partner. In so doing it will stick more and will be easier to follow the steps.

Our father in heaven, help us to do this in Jesus name Amen!